I was working with a client recently who just finished redecorating her son’s room. The result was a spectacular transformation of the room done on a tight budget. I was awed by the end result. To me this room was an example of her incredible creative talent. However, she viewed this accomplishment as something that anyone could do by just using the ideas she had seen on TV and in magazines. I don’t think any amount of TV shows and magazines would enable me to do it.
This woman has incredible talents that she isn’t recognizing. If you are among the many that have trouble seeing your own strengths, I hope you find this information of value.
Think You’re Not Good at Anything? Think Again!
My clients come from many walks of life and include high level executives, professionals, teachers, principals, doctors, other coaches and home makers. Most of them have ADHD and frequently have a sense of being overwhelmed. Another trait they tend to share is the desire to focus on the things that aren’t going right. Many of my clients are quick to tell me about the things that they don’t do well, or want to change. They seem to love to talk about their weaknesses. What I want to hear about, and want my clients to recognize, is what they do well, where they shine and what makes them unique.
My clients will begrudgingly tell me two or three things that they are “ok” at but there is always so much more. Together we dig down and discover many of the things they are truly wonderful at. This introspection is often difficult. Clients tell me that they feel like they are bragging when they hesitantly reveal a secret gem to me. Sometimes to make it easier I’ll ask my clients to look at themselves from someone else’s perspective. It might be a family member, co-worker, boss or friend and imagine what that person would say. What strengths would their friends see? Where do their friends think they shine? What do their friends think is special?
My challenge to you is to create a list of the things you are good at, or at least willing to admit that you are “okay” at. If you need to, look at yourself from someone else’s shoes. What would they say you do well and makes you special? These are your strengths. Write them down on a piece of paper and hang it where you will see it often. Then the next time you find yourself listing all the things you aren’t so good at you’ll be able to remind yourself of where you excel!
by Carrie Greene, ACC, CarrieThru, LLC, ADHD Coaching & Organizing Services.
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