I was on the treadmill, one mile into my two-mile run. Once I finished, I would get on a bike and ride for ten miles, then back to the treadmill for another two miles.
Running doesn’t come easy to me. Frankly, neither does biking. I signed up for the duathlon at my gym as a challenge. I needed a goal and the accountability to get me back on the track.
If I’m going to run, I prefer running outside where I watch the scenery go by and let my mind wander but here I was on the treadmill. I had the television on to keep my mind occupied and was watching the Olympics. The men’s biking road race was on. These guys were amazing. Fast, strong, powerful, determined and fiercely competitive.
As I watched I thought, “I’ll never be that good. I’ll never be that strong. I can’t do that. What am I thinking? Why am I bothering to do this?”
Wow…what was I thinking was right! It became very obvious to me that the only person I needed to compete against was myself and, in that moment I was clearly out to defeat myself. I needed to make a decision. Would I be inspired or defeated?
The men I was watching on television are amazing athletes and had their own goals for their race. The duathlon that I was training for was my race. I had my goals for the race and those goals only needed to meet with my personal needs and expectations. All I had to do to win was do my personal best.
I chose to look at those men and use them as inspiration. I thought about the obstacles they had overcome to reach where they were on that day. The grueling time they spent in the gym. The many races they had raced. I thought about how many times they skipped dinners with friends to get in another lap or session with their trainer. I thought about the investment that they made in themselves. Sure, they are competing on a bigger stage. They have the world watching them and yes, they want to win gold. In my eyes they each had already won. They have beaten their fiercest competitor… themselves.
In both my business and personal life I see how easy it is to compare my own results and progress to those around me. It’s easy to give that little gremlin within an opening. I hear it whispering to me “He has a bigger mailing list than you do.” “She’s only been in business two years and is earning more than you.” “How come her website looks so much better than mine does?” That little gremlin is none other than myself…my biggest and fiercest competitor. It would be easy to let the other me win.
It would be easy to throw in the towel. To give up on my business because it’s not as good as someone else’s or it’s not achieving the results that someone else is achieving. The reality is that there will always be someone whose business brings in more revenue or who has a larger reach than I do. What matters is that I do my best each and every day.
I’m going to make a decision right now and I encourage you to join me. Decide to use other people’s success as inspiration. Their success came through work, determination and doing their personal best. I have no doubt that you are capable of work and determination. Will you achieve what they achieved? Well, that depends…are you willing to defeat your own inner gremlin? If you are you will achieve exactly what they achieved. They achieved their own personal best. Measured against none other than himself or herself.
I challenge you…actually I challenge myself, to do my own personal best each and every day so that I can achieve this in my business and life too. Won’t you join me?
I’d love to know your thoughts on this? What is something you can do to feel inspired to your personal best?
Kimberly says
What an absolutely inspirational story, Carrie! Thank you so much for sharing and helping me remember it’s all just a race against my own personal gremlins.
Carrie says
Hi Kim,
Glad this helped you. I know turning my thinking around really helped me. We’re our own worst enemy and also our own best cheer leader…let’s turn the cheer leader on!
Lisa Manyon says
Carrie,
I was just speaking about how we are all too hard on ourselves and each other. We need to move from competition to collaboration both personally and professionally and especially when it comes to self-care. GREAT article.
Write on!~
Lisa Manyon
jennifer longmore says
I love how our body is always a metaphor for what we think inside….go Carrie!
Stefanie Frank says
I’m in this space right now as I run my business while training for the biggest race of my life coming up on September 9. Truly that’s what it boils down to, doing our personal best each and every day, no matter what the outer circumstances. It’s also important to feel those negative thoughts when they come up and move through them, as you did here. Garret Kramer wrote a great book on this called Stillpower.
Thrilled to read about your training for a duathlon — it’s quite a commitment. One that I’m sure you’ll find rewards in that you that you may not even see right now. Write a race report after you’ve completed it if you have the time and the desire. 🙂
Carrie says
Hi Stefanie…if I remember correctly you’re training for a tri right?
It’s so important to only race against yourself and do what YOU can. Not to worry about anyone else. If we all just did our best it would be amazing. And yes, there were great rewards during the race. I completed it this past weekend. I did it and I did my best! I wrote an article about it…you’ll see it next week.
Oh and I know you’ll do your best in September…and that’s exactly what everyone expects!
Stefanie Frank says
Oh now that you say that I think I remember seeing a picture on FB — congratulations on your finish!
Yes I’m training for the Ironman 70.3 World Championships — got in via the lottery — one of my biggest opportunities to date. Fortunately I have tons of support around me as I train and work through all the emotions around the race and what it represents for me personally.
Which brings up another important facet to being truly able to do our best — SUPPORT!
Carrie says
Ironman…wow. I can’t imagine although I couldn’t imagine this either LOL!
And as to support…you’re going to love next week’s article!
Jenny Fenig says
Love this article and relate to it wholeheartedly! It’s all about mindset and remembering that the only person you’re competing with is yourself.
Keep challenging yourself!
Heidi says
You are so spot on it is all about doing our PB and just showing up every day – consistency is the key!
Kiyla Fenell says
BRAVO Carrie! This should be every woman’s affirmation every morning. I am good enough and will run my race and no one elses.
Kiyla Fenell